You can still have a kink, despite being asexual - that’s something I read. This seems to be true, at least for me.
Since I’ve been a child, I felt a great fascination when men hid their faces - we spent a lot of time on medival fairs, so I saw a lot of knights. They were always beautiful to me, with their shiny helmets of all different kinds; they had a touch of magic to them. The magic vanished, though, when they took off their helmet and revealed their faces and that they were actually ordinary humans.
During puberty, I kind of lost this fascination for helmets (though I still find motorcycle helmets and -clothing slightly mysterious and attractive…). I got more attracted to “ninja masks” instead. Those slick masks you pull over mouth and nose, only the eyes stay visible. I find them kind of “sexy”. Meanwhile I’m into Steampunk, and I also like some of the gas masks that only cover mouth and nose. Nothing that looks to industrial (with too much pipes) or the ones with the strange, scary “nose” and insect-like eyes, but the “simpler” ones. They catch my eye and make me wonder about what they’re covering, but at the same time I’m not interested in uncovering the face^^
Another thing is Slash / Shonen ai / Boy x Boy. I don’t want to ramble a lot about this. I don’t read Boyslove Manga, I’m actually more interested in non-canon couples which somehow catch my eye. I’m not a extreme shipper like “THEY NEED TO BE TOGETHER OMG11!!!”, instead I enjoy non-explicit fanart / fanfiction, especially the falling-in-love-process, unresolved sexual tension (UST), (almost) kisses and the tension between the two males (mostly created by fans).
At the moment, I’m addicted to Shingeki no Kyojin / Attack on Titan. It verifies an older theory of mine concerning what I’m attracted to: Chains, buckles and belts / straps. Just look at the soldiers’ uniforms in SnK: I love how the straps and buckles criss-cross the mens bodies^^ Why? I think it looks gorgeous! I love fashion with chains, buckles (gothic-boots with buckles - oh my gawd, marvellous!!!) and so on <3 I’m too “ordinary” and prefer to wear cozier clothing than a lot of gothic / metal-like clothing / accessory - but I like that fashion style. And boots or jackets or trousers with buckles - hell yeah. Furthermore - it looks hot when the characters get tied up with their uniform straps in some fanart.
Let’s stay with SnK/AoT for the last point: There is a scene where one of the main characters gets chained up and is booted heavily some time later by an older character. The latter then says the chained up character needs to be “trained like a dog”. … I have to admit, while at first I was like “oh my, does he have to be so brutal?!”, after that sentence I was more like “Hell yeah, I want to see that - chain them up and kick them some more 8D” …
Yeah… at the moment I’m really wondering whether I’m interested in bondage / dominance… but actually, those sessions always seem to be so sexually… nah.
My physical response to these kinks depends on mood and daily condition, hormonal cycle, too, I guess. But the heaviest reactions I experienced are these:
- heavy mood-lifting until I feel a bit “high”
- warmth flooding my body, especially head and chest-area
- stupid giggling
- physical attraction / arousal
I can not exactely define the last point. But it’s not a kind of arousal that makes me want to masturbate or have sex with the persons involved. (o__O) My last experience was when I was watching a very good fanvideo of SnK with that abusive relationship, based on the scene mentioned above. The arousal… it’s more the need to get closer to the action, to watch… I want them right in front of me, but I don’t want to get involved physically.
Ok, I can’t really tell, whether these are actual “kinks”, because I don’t know how the “average” person reacts to exposure to their kinks. Wikipedia says, kinks are connected with sexuality, so I guess people get sexually (=physically) aroused when exposed to their kink. So some might argue “it’s not a kink if you don’t get sexually aroused because you’re asexual”.
First, I can get aroused, even though it doesn’t result in me wanting sex with anybody (duh, I’m always somewhat repulsed by the thought… it’s ridiculous for me.) Second, I feel some kind of arousal if I see these “kinks” of mine. And I enjoy them. I don’t care if these are “real” kinks or not. I just love the stuff^^
I made a Götze/Reus video. It’s a bit slashy and I did my best to match it to the lyrics. I even managed to render it in HD… well, at least Vegas did its best, but some of the footage was too crappy to become HD xD